Just My Trash

We are all being taught this way since young: Never judge a book by it’s cover. But isn’t this born in all human races? We judge human by the way they carry themselves, we judge an animal’s ability according to its size and we even judge an object way before we use it. Yeah. I do judge people at times before I even know the truth. Who doesn’t judge?

I’m really sick and tired of getting similar questions/comments all the time.

- Hey! How many girls have you dated? OR Have you dated any girls before?

- Hey! Are you gay or are you straight?

-YOU ARE STRAIGHT? /  YOU LIKE GUYS? CANNOT TELL LEH!!

- Hey you dress up like a guy but you behave damn 娘 (girly). (I’m a female after all!! Seriously people?! Seriously?! -.-)

Just because I dress neutral doesn’t mean that I must or I like girls. “If you like guys then shouldn’t you dress up to be more feminine to attract the guys’ attention else they will always think or see it in a way that you must be a butch/lesbian.” 

Hey people! Come on la! You don’t go up to a girl with long hair who dress herself up in mini skirt or dress and ask her if she’s straight or gay. You don’t go up to a built muscular guy and ask him if he likes male or female. But WHY when a female or male dress neutral or should I say an androgynous style, he or she must be a gay?! I really don’t get it.

Ok. Out of 10 tomboys, maybe  5 or 6 of them are lesbians/butch but what about the other 4 or 5? You can’t judge them because of they way they dress. To add on, a tomboy is a tomboy. A tomboy doesn’t always mean that she is gay. She just feel uncomfortable wearing skirts/dresses/blouses with lace etc.

Yeah. I tried keeping my hair long. Not once not twice but quite a lot of times, I just can’t stand those length where it’s neither short nor long, wanna tie but can’t tie it up at all. I tried accepting skirts and dresses all over again (apart from school uniform) but I’m still rejecting it. I’ve been like this since 12 years old. Freaking 10 years of not dressing up in feminine way. How do you want me to wear them suddenly?!

And guys, please uh! Stop having the mindset that female with long hair are a lot more attractive. Short hair female can be sexy and hot as well ok!

Sometimes little things that guys do can touched me easily. (Not crush or like them. Yeah. Like them as a friend.) They just make me feel like they are gentleman enough and take care of girls even though I’m not feminine on the outside (I’m actually very 娘 on the inside).

Like there was once, we were chatting while walking on the road (there’s no sidewalk on the entire stretch of road we were walking on). I was walking near the passing car and he was walking at the inner side. As more cars started driving passed, he immediately walked beside me and said “you walk inside” while he walked on the outside.

Same goes for the seating in the bus (a different guy friend), he told me to move in as he took the outer seat. It depends actually. Some guys will take notice of these little things and some will not. But I think only gentleman will take note of all these things.